In the previous blog, Finding Endurance in your Single Season, I shared my testimony of enduring in my season. In this post, I’ll share with you three points that are sustaining me throughout my journey. However, before diving into my three points, let’s have a bit of a Word!
Matthew 6:33 says, “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”
The Word of God explicitly tells us to seek first the kingdom of God. Often, what trips most believers is that they're after God for the substance. When seeking God for elements that are byproducts of Him, it turns God into the
byproduct of that substance. For example, many pursue God in prayer when they need a breakthrough. In reality, that breakthrough is what they are really after, not God. – God has turned into the byproduct of their breakthrough. Let's take it a step further when seeking God for a spouse without having a relationship with Him or even desiring a spouse more than you seek after God or, obsessing over the idea of marriage, you have now turned God into the byproduct of a spouse.
The Bible says to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Your sole focus is not God for the materialistic or pleasures, but rather God for His Holiness. We are to seek God to be in right standing with Him, and to have a relationship with Him as our Father, Savior, and Creator. Naturally, when we seek God for Him and His righteousness, He automatically rewards us with the desires of our hearts. Why? Because He's a good Father and the Lord gives gifts liberally. Amen? Amen!
I am Focused
Quite naturally, when we’re welcomed into the body of Christ, the next thing on our mind is marriage. Marriage, for most of us, turns into the focal point of our conversation and is at the forefront of our mind. At one point, this was true for me. I was fascinated with the idea of marriage. I found myself praying more for a husband than I did for a deeper relationship with the Father. Let’s just be honest!
Realizing that I had put Christ on the back burner of my desires, I addressed this situation in repentance and prayer. It was vital that I acknowledged my wrong, repented and asked for a changed heart! Over time, the Holy Spirit began to transform my heart and shifted my mind. The moment when my desires started to change from marriage, back to Christ was when my relationship with the Father intensified. There will be times in your relationship with the Lord where you are going to have to repent, ask for forgiveness and get focused about pleasing God and being in right standing with Him. The Lord is saying, ‘No longer will you have a double mind. For I am calling you to get focused, and real about pursuing a relationship with Me, your Father. I desire to fulfill all your needs according to My riches and glory, but you must first seek Me, for ME.’
Seek First the Kingdom of God.
Love on Love
In my book, You're More Than Enough, I have a section titled ‘Love on Love.' In this section, I discuss the importance of waiting on love, so that love can find and love, what's already loved. A mouth full, I know. As you're in this season of singleness, as mentioned before, remember it's a gift. This gift, if handled correctly, will allow you the time to focus on self and understand why God loves you and thought you are to die for. This will require you to confront every aspect of your life that has stunted your growth and warped the belief of your value. This season is to provoke self-love and determination to become the virtue that God has destined for you to be. God wants you to love every aspect fiber of your being and will use this season to do so.
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